terimalah hambu mu ini Ya Allah Hu Akbar

terimalah hambu mu ini Ya Allah Hu Akbar
aku nak jadi hamba Allah yang bertaqwa kepada Nya

Monday, November 5, 2012

Exotic & romantic settings, Female fantasies are more emotional

Exotic & romantic settings Another characteristic of female fantasies is reference to exotic, romantic settings, such as islands, forests, flowers, waterfalls, moonlight and heaven. Many women also mention freedom from responsibilities or distractions (such as children or the telephone) as an important aspect of their fantasies. Passive & submissive thoughts Women are also more likely to fantasize that they are passive recipients of sexual activity, unlike men, whose fantasies are more about performing sexual activity on an imagined sexual object. Similarly, women are more likely to have submission fantasies than men; however, the common so-called "rape fantasy" is not at all about real rape. It is about the woman's irresistible sex appeal that causes some handsome, sensitive, caring "brute" to be so overcome with passion that he has to take her. He exerts just enough force to overcome her token resistance, and then his sensitive, caring side takes over -- enabling him to do just the right things to satisfy her. If her fantasies are drawn out into daydreams, they will likely lead to her brutish lover proposing marriage, or at least promising an undying commitment to satisfying her sexually. Emotional desires Female fantasies are more emotional, intimate and contextual, and often reflect a woman's concern for committed partners and romantic settings. So while guys may fantasize about threesomes or harems full of anonymous babes, women's fantasies emphasize touching, feelings, partner response, their own physical and emotional responses, and a romantic ambience. The object of their daydreams might be a celebrity, but it is more likely to be someone they have had -- or wished to have had -- a past relationship with. Indeed, the most common feature of female fantasies is the inclusion of a husband or a current love partner (twice as many women as men fantasize about their current partner). So chances are, while you are imagining that she is Angelina Jolie, she is actually thinking of you, or you and Brad Pitt dueling over her! Bisexual dreams However, your girlfriend might be fantasizing about Angelina Jolie as well, because many women are naturally bi-curious and women are much more likely to have same-sex fantasies than men. If you find out that your girlfriend or wife is having such fantasies, don't worry about her being a lezzy -- take advantage of the moment and suggest a threesome. But don't be too eager; pretend that you are actually indulging her fantasy! Fewer fetishes Girl fantasies are less likely to involve fetishes. Forget the foot worshipping scene; if a woman fantasizes about shoes, she is dreaming about the mall and the latest style of Manolo Blahnik pumps. She might fantasize about a bout of light bondage -- as part of a bodice-ripping, romantic encounter with some ruggedly handsome pirate type. share your fantasies Encourage her to share her fantasies with you and then surprise her by acting parts of them out (some hotels have theme rooms customized for various fantasies). Communicating about your fantasies will enrich your sex life and may even bring some of them to fruition -- especially if it turns out that both of you have been thinking about sleeping with her yoga instructor! And one more thing... if, after a hot bout of sex, she whispers in your ear, "Oh, Brad, that was wonderful!," don't freak out or get insanely jealous. Just give her a squeeze, kiss her eyes, and whisper back, "My Angelina, I'm glad it was good for you too!" Dr. Victoria Zdrok earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Drexel University, a J.D. from Villanova Law School and her certificate in sex therapy from New Jersey School of Medicine. She is the author of Anatomy of Pleasure, and is the monthly sex advice columnist for Penthouse Magazine (for whom she was 2004 Pet of the Year). You can ask her questions three times a week on her radio talk show at ElectricEyeRadio.com, or visit her at her website, SexySexpert.com. Read more: http://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa_100/120b_love_secrets.html#ixzz2BNV2kAFS

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